Dr. ABBAS 

Casual Sex
Q. I am 21 years old and would like to ask if there are any safety precautions that I should take when I have causal sex?
Concerned Reader, Dodoma.
A:Yes, try to observe these guidelines: Always use a condom. Squeeze the tip and roll the condom all the way down the shaft of the penis. Go for regular sex checkups at your local clinic. Avoid sex if you are drunk. Say a firm no to sex if you change your mind. Learn to ask about a partner's sex history, including questions such as when did you last have an AIDS test? Remember that sex does not have to be penetrative; suggests mutual masturbation as an alternative. If you go back to a partner's house, make sure that someone knows where you are especially if you are a woman.
It is very important to communicate carefully with casual sex partners so that you both know what to expect from each other. Find out about someone's personality. If you are already intimate with someone, ask him or her at each sexual stage if they like what you are doing to go further.
Beware of people under the influence of alcohol. Whether people can have fully consensual sex when they are drunk or not, is a contentious issue.

Erection Without Sex
Q. I am a 25 year old lady and my boyfriend is 26 years old. If my boyfriend has an erection but do not have sex, will it damage him? Secondly, how could we improve our lovemaking?
Concerned Reader, ZNZ.
A: No, when a boy gets sexually excited, blood rushes into the penis and balls, making the penis stiff and the balls firm. If he has an orgasm the blood rushes away again. If he does not have an orgasm, the blood still goes away but it takes longer and the boy sometimes has an uncomfortable, tight feeling until it does.
This is annoying but not dangerous. Girls who are sexually aroused but do not have an orgasm can also get an achy feeling in their genitals. It is annoying but it soon goes away. The word commonly used for this condition among people is blue balls and some boys try to use it as an excuse to put pressure on their girlfriends to have sex on the grounds that they may damage themselves. This is not true.
If you want to improve your lovemaking or if there are things you are not enjoying in bed, it is a good idea to talk it through with your partner. It can sometimes be a touchy subject to broach as it might hurt your partner, or make him defensive if he feels that his sexual technique is being criticized. It could be that he has no idea that something he thinks is really exciting is actually a big turn off for you. You also know more about your body and what turns you on than your partner does and vice versa. The techniques you both use on yourselves when you masturbate may be something that you could teach each other.

Chickenpox
Q. I am 33 years and my son is eight years. Recently he was suddenly diagnosed to have chickenpox. I am very worried over how he sustained this disease. Kindly, can you explain briefly about it and what should be done about chickenpox?
Concerned Reader, DSM.
A: Chickenpox is caused by a herpes virus, which spreads by droplets from the upper respiratory tract or by contaminations from the discharge from ruptured lesions of the skin. Chickenpox is highly infectious and chiefly affects children under 10 years of age. Symptoms are usually brief and mild, and the first sign of the disease is often the rash. Lesions are sometimes present on the palate before the characteristic rash appears on the trunk on the second day of the illness. Then the face and finally the limbs are involved. The spot reach their maximum density upon the trunk, and more sparse on the limbs. Blisters appear in 24 hours. The blisters are fragile and may be ruptured by changing cloths. Damage from scratching is also frequent, since itching may be troublesome.
Whether or not the blister ruptures, they dry up in few days. The spots appear in crops, so that lesions at all stages of development are seen in any area at the same time. The course of the disease is usually uneventful but secondary infection may occur. Serious complications, which are rare, include chickenpox pneumonia, etc. No treatment is required in the majority of cases. If there is secondary infection antibiotics would be required.